Silent chords in your relationships work the same way as this, but with more levels. Here, we sometimes keep a squent about what`s going on beneath the surface, even though your behavior reveals you. For example, your partner experiences your real feelings when you experience your fear of sexual intimacy in the form of headaches in bed. But he agrees (tacitly) not to say anything about it, because he fears that if you two talk about the subject openly, the real reasons for your disinterest could be so serious that he might never have sex with you again. He also wants to avoid an uncomfortable conversation about sex, because he doesn`t want to say out loud that he doesn`t have sexual confidence and therefore finds women intimidating. He therefore relies on them to continue to help him to keep his worries and feelings quiet. After a few years, Sarah admits that this relationship does not make her happy. To dispel the fear of a new rejection, she convinces herself that she is too picky and that she remains unhappy in silence in her marriage. Fifteen years later, Sarah is finally confident and confident enough to realize that staying in her relationship is unbearable and that her silent agreement breaks – when she tells her truth, she leads to anger, pain and rejection, as she did when she was four years old. She`s asking Dean to get a divorce. The prices of the wine delivered under the distribution agreement were calculated in accordance with the sales contract. The parties were aware that the prices of bottled wine were Pernod`s book values that reflected Pernod`s production costs and did not contain excise duties.
Lions` financial modelling, and thus profit and valuation forecasting, expected Lion to obtain an excise duty on wine purchased by Pernod at the beginning of the distribution contract. Lion could and could then retrieve it from his customers when he sold the finished products. The evidence therefore suggests that Lion staff expected to pay Pernod for the excise duty on the finished products. The High Court recognized that the threshold for the involvement of a clause in a detailed commercial contract was high, particularly where contractual documents are complex. This is the need to have commercial security. If neither person is ready and able to tackle the problems that bother them, silent chords can cause resentment and unhappiness, even in an otherwise surprising relationship. Unmatched expectations can lead one person to feel hurt and misunderstood, while the other wonders what they could do wrong. A little honesty about how you feel if you constantly pay for dinner might be exactly what your relationship needs.
It may be hard to find out that you work two in separate spheres, but this can lead to a relationship reset that you desperately need. But how can we consider as an agreement an agreement that we make with ourselves? In agreements with oneself, it is as if there are two parts of you. To avoid the anger, disapproval or rejection of others, or simply to avoid the awkwardness of confrontation, we separate from you the side that keeps your feelings, your thoughts and your true reactions, and which keeps the truth quiet on the side that openly expresses them. Like Sarah, whose feelings were well oriented with her willingness to express them freely, but who learned to divide into two personalities, you may feel pressured to separate these pages from yourself. So to have both feelings you want to express and the desire to keep feelings secret, you need to develop a system that allows you to feel emotions, but hides them. This mechanism is a silent agreement. A big problem with this oppression is that even feelings that seem to be buried will arise from behavior. Because we have doubts and fears about the sharing of our feelings, we compromise with ourselves in the form of silent agreements.